Let me start off by saying I know I will get push back on this topic and that is ok. I understand human flesh and our desires in this fallen world. Each of us could easily travel down a rabbit hole when you google, “Christian Singleness and Sex” and lose countless hours looking at the opinions of others.However, I want us to look at a particular article and determine how we should navigate these thought patterns and of course look at who is right: this author, us, or God and His Word.

     The Christian Post wrote an article in 2016 entitled, “Single Christians Can Have Sex as Long as It’s ‘Mutually Pleasurable and Affirming,’ Pastor Says”. The author’s name is Rev. Bromleigh McCleneghan. She is married with three children and she’s an associate pastor at the Union Church of Hinsdale in Illinois. Despite the fact that the article is nearly a decade old, it is evident from the current state of television and social media that we reside in a contemporary society where individuals who claim to be “Christians” freely express themselves however they wish. The article provides an in-depth analysis of her perspective, asserting that individuals who are single do not have to refrain from engaging in sexual activities in order to maintain their purity. Upon closer examination of the Scriptures, it becomes evident that the author in question is speaking in error, misleading individuals, and holding an incorrect biblical viewpoint. Let’s examine what 1 Corinthians 6 verses 9 and 10 says.  “Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God.” As Christians, it is imperative for both you and me to stop our attempts to seek an escape of God’s mandates or justification for engaging in sinful actions. Just because a man or woman says a thing does not make it TRUTH. Only what God says in His Word is TRUTH!

     In the article, the author also tries to play on words like “chastity” and “celibacy” insinuating that they are mutually exclusive, but they mean the same thing. Furthermore, she proceeds to assert that the necessity for sexual fulfillment is needed for men and women, implying that it is unjust to expect a single person to abstain from such desires. It is a well-known fact that Satan always seeks to corrupt and pervert whatever God creates. What our society calls progress, God calls it SIN! Hebrews 13:4 tells us that God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.

     Because we live in a fallen world, each of us has a propensity to make mistakes and sin. At those times we can repent and seek God’s forgiveness. 1 John 1 verse 9 reminds us, “But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.” When we are truthful with ourselves and with God, we will admit that having sex with our boyfriends, girlfriends, fiancés, or whoever is what we desire. We are choosing our way and not God’s way. We are choosing to be ungodly verses godly. We are choosing to be like the world instead of being set apart. Finally, God’s Word encourages us in Ephesians 5:1-3 by saying, “Imitate God (we are to follow Him), therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people.”